March Assignment
Patti Conklin • February 28, 2017
Do something kind for a stranger.
For this month’s assignment, you will be tasked with extending a kind gesture, gift of love, or a helping hand to a complete stranger. This could happen spur of the moment, or you could take your time to carefully plan it. It might be something as simple as waiting at your mailbox to offer a bottle of water to your mail-person, or maybe you’d rather plan out a visit to a local long-term care residential facility to offer free manicures. Have new neighbors? Bake some cookies and go over and say hello! Notice a short woman struggling to reach something from the top shelf? Offer to grab it for her. Here’s one I particularly loved: I went through a drive-thru for a quick cup of coffee, and the cashier informed me that a man left $20 and the instruction to “Use it ’til it’s gone.” Coffee is amazing. Free coffee? Even better.
Be creative! But that’s only part of your assignment.
The second part of your assignment is to record your body’s response to the act of helping. In my book, God Within: The Day God’s Train Stopped, I discuss that while we can not control the actions of others or the events we experience, we can control how we respond to them. We decide which emotions we’ll allow ourselves to experience and ultimately store within our bodies. We can add positive emotions into our life each day through how we interact with the world. By making a conscious effort to positively impact the life of a complete stranger, how does your body respond? How does it feel? Tingly? Light and airy? Does it bring you clarity? Energy?
Share your experiences in the comments below. One commenter will be chosen for a free hour healing session!
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