Patti's Blog

Breaking patterns is not just about your healing — it’s about the legacy you create. Even if you don’t have children, your life impacts your friends, partners, community, and future generations in ways you may not even realize.

Breaking generational cycles isn't about rejecting your family, it’s about creating new pathways for yourself & generations after you. Transformation takes both unlearning & relearning.

We inherit more from our families than DNA or last names. We also inherit ways of thinking, behaving, and relating. But what's the cost of carrying what isn't yours?

We inherit more from our families than DNA or last names. We also inherit ways of thinking, behaving, and relating. Some of these patterns are beautiful — resilience, creativity, hospitality, faith. Others are heavier — silence, avoidance, cycles of debt, emotional repression, or even abuse.

It’s easy to get defensive when your partner changes. But curiosity is what keeps intimacy alive. When you lead with curiosity, you're saying: “You don’t have to shrink for me. I want to know the real you—even as you evolve.”

You don’t have to love the same hobbies to love each other well. What matters most is respecting what brings your partner joy—even if you don’t fully understand it.

A strong relationship isn’t about doing everything together. It’s about finding enough shared space to keep choosing each other again and again as you both evolve.

Change doesn’t have to pull you apart. But silence will. Keep the lines open. Let the conversations be messy, honest, and ongoing.

When your partner changes, resist the urge to pull away or pretend nothing is different. Lean in. Speak up. Be curious, not critical.