Don't Wish Life, Live Life part 1

patti • April 4, 2022

Life as it is, right at this moment.

Patti Conklin's Famous Saying: Don't Wish Life, Live Life.

Life, where am I in my life? My family life, my work life, my friend life, my romantic life?

 

Many of us, from day to day, find that our feelings towards our life change from day to day. How can we be expected to have stability in our life knowing it can change on a dime? With just a shift of the breeze, change comes, often in the blink of an eye. 

 

How can we feel secure? 

How do we know we will be ok tomorrow, or even at the end of the day? End of the hour? End of this sentence?

 

Perceptions -

 

Let go of the drama created by others, but also created by yourself.  You can’t change what someone else feels or thinks. Own your actions and reactions in every moment of your life. Surrender to knowing that the only life you have control of, in this minute - this blip in time - is yours.  You have no control over another equal being. 

 

We are where we are, in this moment of time - 

 

It’s not good or bad, it simply ‘is’.  Our family situation, our work life, our friends, our lovers.  They change as we move through life. Sometimes we need to take a few moments to take the proverbial book off of the bookshelf to realize we’ve now made room for the new.  New friends, new lovers, new chapters.

 

We all have the choice to decide if it’s a positive or a negative in our life.  We are in THIS moment of time. How do you perceive your life in the moment? Close your eyes. Feel, absorb, tune in to what your body is saying. How are you perceiving the events of today? Yesterday? If something in your life doesn’t feel good, then how do you change the circumstances in which you find yourself at this moment?  Perception.

 
Don’t wish Life, Live Life. 

 

BE WHO YOU ARE IN THIS MOMENT! And be okay with it. Each day, reach for the stars, do something that creates anxiety in you, and find that the anxiety flows away from you. By facing your fears and your anxiety, you realize that it’s only as fearful and anxious as you choose for it to be.  I personally will never enjoy a rollercoaster.  Vomiting all over the ride isn’t my idea of fun! But I have done it. I CHOOSE not to do it again, lol. 

 

If we don’t explore our life, we become stuck in our dream of life.  We always think about what can be instead of moving towards what we wish.  We are a little dot, in this cosmic moment we call time.  We are nothing more than PERFECTION in this moment.  If you don’t know what road you are on as a Soul, then how can you say it’s a bad road? It’s simply a road.  Your perception of it is all that matters. 

 

Change your Perception and your road changes.  It’s that simple and that hard.  Life - it's a beautiful gift.

 

Don’t Wish Life, Live LIFE!


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