Challenges Conceiving a Baby
Patti Conklin • July 15, 2016
Virtually everyone has either experienced conception issues or knows of someone who has. Some couples decide to adopt, some use a surrogate mother, some use IVF, and others choose to remain childless. No one has the right answer or the wrong answer, because it isn’t about right or wrong. It’s about what each couple feels is right for them. Judging a couple for a decision they make is making it clear that you have an emotional attachment to the end result or an expectation about decision, even when you don’t know them.
When I married, my husband and I wanted children. Years passed and I couldn’t conceive. Oh, how I remember the mornings of reaching for the thermometer to take my temperature before I moved from bed to see if I was ovulating or not.
After years passed, looking into everything that was available in the early 1980s, our options were limited. Just when I’d all but given up, I finally conceived. My ovaries were sluggish, they weren’t releasing eggs. So many things had to happen for me to finally conceive. I gave birth to my son Daniel and then to Matthew 16 months later. I’m so very thankful for the blessings of those two. Years later, I ended up adopting two more sons, Russell and Tony, and believe me, many other sons and daughters became regulars at my house. Even today, I’m contacted for advice in their lives. Having children, biological and adopted, changed my life forever, now my grandchildren, Howard, Kylen, Emmett and Skye continue to bring such amazing joy into my life. I know firsthand the depression and the pain and heartache at the thought of never having my own biological child.
As a family, we have decided to do whatever we can to assist dear friends in their quest to have a child. Due to a very rare disorder that Dusty has, the only way for them to conceive a child is through IVF treatment, a treatment that was not available to me in the early 1980s. This is a decision they have made as a Christian couple, and the Conklin family and my own corporation are supporting them this month to help achieve this goal. I know many of you have written that adoption would be a good answer to their predicament, and if the IVF fails, then maybe adoption would be the solution, but they’ve made their decision and we have upheld it.
During the last 21 years of doing my work, I always respect peoples decisions of how they want to handle their life. It’s their choice, not mine to make it for them.
I’d love to hear stories from you, our clients and friends about your experiences with conception. Was it easy for you or even planned? Did you try for months on end to finally conceive? Did you choose adoption? How did you emotionally deal with this issue? When we share our lives in stories, we all are enriched by getting to know each other better. Please read Dusty and Kayla’s story. It’s inspirational, and sincerely brings up my own memories of my own conception troubles. Let’s hear from you! Much love and joy to all of you! Blessings, Patti.
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